I Wonder What She’d Think

I have wondered this so many times over the past 6 years! And anytime I try to Imagine if I got just 5 minutes what Id ask her!!! Despite the more obvious questions there’s also so many other things I just wish I could have her opinion on!

Mostly trivial things, for instance I came across someone very recently we both mutually know and they aren’t really the person I thought they were! And I’d just feckin love to know what my mam really thought of them !

Even things like Snapchat…..Stephen reckons she’d love the fact I’m on it. She would be ringing me to ask had I seen a certain bargain and made sure to let the Snapchatters know!! Or If she was here while I was snapping she would be popping into the background to give her two cents!

I’ve made some huge decisions over the past 6 years and I hated not having her opinion on them even if sometimes it may not have been what I would have wanted to hear.

But she always seems to have some way of guiding me!

I cried my eyes out last year when I realised we were making the wrong choice for Rebecca’s School! I was standing in the Shower and It’s like I could almost hear her Saying

“Grace what are you doing? Don’t send her there”

So the next morning a panicked phone call and a quick groveling meeting with the Principal and it was sorted!

But his 1st words to me when I met him were “Sure your mam would be going mad if she wasn’t coming here” I knew right then and there I had made the right choice.

There’s always this sense of longing when you make a decision or follow through with one,

When we decided recently that I wasn’t going back to work after having Luke I spoke to numerous people for some advice and they helped greatly, but I would have given anything for her to say “of course your doing the right thing darling”.

When I did hand in my notice I came back to the car and there it was that longing and empty feeling, it never fades! I sent a text or rang the people I needed to but that incomplete feeling is just sitting there as you can’t tell all the people you feel the need to! That’s why the feeling is so strong it’s not a want it’s a need!!! A need to know they know, hear their reaction and feel secure in their approval!

I feel for the majority of girls the age I lost my mam is the time you begin a new sort of Relationship with them. Instead of not always welcoming their opinion you desperately need their guidance and you become more and more like friends!!

I have certainly gained an awful lot of new respect for my mam since I became a Mother! It ain’t easy!!!

And when you have a mini me who thinks she always knows better I sometimes want to apologise for also being that mini madam who thought they knew everything!!!

I turned 30 recently and to be frankly honest I hated it and not only as it’s a scary new age bracket but because there I was, 30 , so happily married with two adorable little humans and she wasn’t here to see it! I felt like I was once again stepping into a new stage and she wasn’t here to celebrate any of it! No birthday is easy as you spend most of the day longing for the birthday call or visit you know isn’t coming but this one was particularly lousy!! I just know she would have been parading me around telling people I was 30 just so someone would be shocked that she had a daughter my age ! She would be heading for 54 now and I just can’t fathom that! I think she will always be 48 to me. I’ll never be able to picture her any older and I like it that way!

Despite never really being able to know what she’d think I’ve no doubt at all that she’d be so very proud of every decision I’ve made without her and the way in which I’m growing to be just like her.

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Tis The Season…. To Eat!!!

I love food but I LOVE Christmas Food!!!!

My Death row meal (should I ever get there) is a Fresh White bread Sambo with real butter and Layers of Honey Glazed Ham, Sausage Meat Stuffing & Cranberry Sauce !!!!

I’ve Hosted Christmas Dinner twice, once for 11 People from my teeny Kitchen and it was a huge success….well so they tell me !! And another year I had 15 girls here for Kris Kindle Drinks that required some festive Party Food! So I’m no Stranger to feeding at this time of year! I’m going to share some Recipes, Tips & Ideas for a handy tasty and excessively Indulgent Christmas !!

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Not essential in my opinion as the main is such a huge deal but if your planning on doing a starter I think it should be something that you can either pre make or pre prepare!!

My Fave is a Little Anti Pasti Tapas Style Starter it tastes great and needs no cooking and looks great on a slate server!

The way I do ours is with Slices of Serrano or Parma along with Chunks of cheese. Smoked Applewood & Wensleydale with Cranberries or Apricots are my Fave!!!

Then I fill little individual ramekins with Garlic Butter, Red Onion Relish, Pesto, Pate & Quince Paste! Lidl always Have Quince this time of year and it’s gorgeous with Cheese!!! Another addition thats nice is some Walnuts! This selection of course needs some Bread!!! Sliced Brioche Rolls Toasted is Perfect or You can now buy Milano Dough balls in Tesco and they are fab with any of this!!!

A Classic Starter of Soup is a great option!

This Celeriac Soup is sooo Tasty and works perfect at Christmas Time!!

Add one Tablespoon of Butter to a large pot.

Add 2 Peeled,Washed & Finely Chopped Potatoes & 1 Medium Chopped Onion.

Sprinkle of Salt, Black Pepper, & Nutmeg.

Cook on a medium heat for about 5 Minutes.

Then add peeled Chopped Celeriac. Add chicken stock and ensure all veg is covered.

Bring to the boil then leave to Simmer on a medium heat for 15 mins. Blend to a consistency you like I add more hot water as necessary as I like it really smooth!

Then add 50ml of Fresh Cream. Sprinkle the Top with some Toasted Hazelnuts to Serve.

For something more Traditional,Honey Roast Veg Soup!

Peel Wash and Chop

3 Carrotts

2 Parsnips

1 Red onion

2 Small or 1 Large Sweet Potatoes

When all veg is chopped toss in some olive oil and then sprinkle with a little Salt, Black Pepper, Garlic Powder, Cayenne Pepper (leave the cayenne out if you don’t want it to be spicy).

Roast in the Oven for a half hour

Remove the veg and add a good squeeze of honey and toss so all coated.

Back into the oven for another 10/15 mins

Pop all veg into a large pot then add stock enough to cover all the veg.

I used 1 veg and 1 chicken stock cube with boiling water.

Boil for 10 mins then Blitz to whatever consistency you like.

I personally prefer smooth soup so I keep adding hot water as I blend to give me the Consistency I want.

Both Soups Can be pre made & heated when needed!

QUICK IDEA: If you just want something super simple Dunnes in the chilled section near the pre made salads etc do tubs of different colored melon balls which are lovely & look nice !


I don’t really Like Turkey therefore I don’t have a huge desire for cooking it so I Turned to Nigella for ours!!! https://www.nigella.com/recipes/spiced-and-superjuicy-roast-turkey

BUT I love Ham and my Mam made THE BEST Honey Roast ham !! She boiled it in cider and cloves then roasted it in a divine Glaze!!!

If your looking for something a little easier but still super tasty why not turn to the Slow cooker for Honey Glazed Ham!!

To make the Glaze.

In a bowl combine

1.5 Tablespoons of Brown Sugar

1 Tablespoon of English Mustard

2 Tablespoons of Maple Syrup or Honey

You may need to add a little extra of each if it’s a really big ham!!

Pop the Ham into your slow cooker and cover in the glaze.

Here is a link for a guide to how long to cook your ham in the slow cooker.


This is the Important bit!!!Save a little glaze from before so when its cooked spread a bit more all over the ham and pop in oven for 10/15 mins just to crisp up the edges!!!


Gravy!!!! I made a Carmelised Onion Gravy to have with Sausages Recently and Quite Frankly it was unreal so I’m making it for Christmas Day!

Melt 1 Tablespoon of unsalted Butter in a pot over a medium heat then and 1 Tablespoon of Plain Flour whisk together for approx one minute till it turns a blonde colour.
Then slowly add in the Stock while continuously whisking (Stock is 1 Beef Stock Pot combined with 240ml boiling water)
Whisk until there is no lumps then leave on low heat to thicken when at a consistency you are happy with add 
Pinch of Black Pepper
1 Tsp of Mustard Powder
1 Tsp of Dried Sage
1.5 Tablespoons of Caramelised Onion Chutney/Relish (I used dunnes today but we usually have the red onion one from Lidl)
Mix it all in and done.

Last Year I made our Cranberry Sauce in the Slow cooker and it was Amazing !!! I’m making a big batch again this year! I followed the Recipe by Cleverly Simple Blog.


Not My Pic I find it too hard to get a decent pic 🤷‍♀️

I never had Potato Gratin with Christmas Dinner growing up but Stephen always did and now it’s a must for us it’s sooo nice!!!!!!

To make the Sauce Combine

300ml of Cream

250ml of Full Fat Milk

A Handful of Grated Parmesan

2 Heaped Tablespoons of Melted Garlic Butter.

Peel wash and Thinly Slice Potatoes ( 5 Medium Sized)

Rub Sides of an Oven Dish with a small amount of Butter.

Then Start Layering the dish with Potatoes then Sauce till the dish is full. Pop in the oven at 200 till brown on top and Bubbling approx 1 Hour.

The best part about Christmas Dinner is the Stuffing and this is my Recipe for Sausage Meat Stuffing!

Add all of the following to a large mixing bowl:

1 Bag of Breadcrumbs 200gram

1 Roll of Sausage meat 450-500gram

1 Table Spoon of Yellow aromat.

1 Tsp of Black Pepper

1 Tsp of Parsley

1 Tsp of Normal Mustard

1 Tablespoon of Garlic Butter

1 Beaten Egg

No need for salt !!

1 Finely Chopped Medium White Onion.

Now you need some gloves and you need to combine the living daylights out of it all.

Shape into a Rectangular meatloaf shape.(The food not the singer 😂) Wrap entirely in tinfoil no need to pre butter the tinfoil as the garlic butter in the stuffing does that for you.

Cook In the oven on 200 for approx 35mins then open the foil so it’s exposed and put it back in for about 10/15 mins till it looks nice and golden on top.

Slice as Thick or Thin as you Like the end bits are always the best!!!

This Re-heats really well in the oven or microwave and is Amazing on Sambos!

For a non Sausage Meat Stuffing how about Walnut Stuffing!

I made this in a food processor because sometimes I just like to use it 😂

6 Slices of Bread

1 egg

1 Tsp of Parsley

1 Tsp of Black Pepper

1 Clove of Garlic

1 Handful of Walnuts

1 Tablespoon of Butter

1 Spring Onion

Into an oven dish then into a preheated oven for 10 mins stir then another 10 mins 👌

Maple Roast Veg Super Tasty & Easy

(Not my Pic)

I used Carrots & Parsnips didn’t peel just washed and roughly chopped!!

Par Boiled for 15 Mins then tossed in a little Olive Oil and into the oven for about 20 Mins then remove drizzle with some Maple Syrup and back in for another 5/10 mins.

If you fancy cheating Aldi & Lidl have bags of frozen maple parsnips that are really lovely!!

For Roast Potatoes I’m sending you the king of Roast Potatoes Jamie Oliver ! He does a little trick with a potato masher that is a game changer!



These Chocolate & Walnut Brownies with a Melted Biscoff Topping are just amazing!!!!

Add to a large Mixing Bowl
1 Cup of Brown Sugar
1/2 Cup Melted Butter
1/2 Cup Coco Powder ( I used Cadbury Drinking choc)
200gram Choc Chips
2 Teaspoons Vanilla Extract
3/4 Cup of Plain Flour
2 Beaten Eggs 
1 Cup of Chopped Walnuts
Combine everything then pour into an oven dish lined with Baking Paper.
Put into a pre heated oven at 200 for 30 mins then leave to cool for 30 Mins before Cutting.

I melted 2 Heaped Tablespoons of Biscoff Spread in the Microwave for 30 seconds then poured it over the Cooled brownies before cutting!

Kinder Bueno Chocolate Biscuit Cake !!!!!

Pour 1.5 Packs of Milk Choc Digestive Biscuits Into a freezer bag and beat to mix of rubble & crumb with a rolling pin. (The Biscuit packs are 300gram each)
Break 3 Kinder Bueno bars into 24 Individual pieces.
Cut Kinder Mini Eggs into Quarters 
Pour 4 bags of 100gram Milk Choc Chips into a big bowl with a tsp of butter! 
Melt in the Microwave for 30 seconds take out and stir put back in for another 30 seconds and stir it should be perfect and all melted.
Combine the Digestive Biscuit Rubble with the Melted Choc and add the kinder bueno pieces and the kinder mini egg pieces 
Then Pour in one tin of condensed milk combine it all completely then pour into a oven dish or cake tin pre lined with grease proof paper.
Top it with pieces of individual kinder bueno pieces.
Into fridge over night next day cut as you please.

Baileys & Biscoff Chesse Cake 

300gLotus Biscoff Biscuits
I stuck them in the food processor and blitz to a fine crumb could also be put in a freezer bag and beaten to a crumb.
Mix the biscuit crumb with 
125g of Melted Unsalted Butter 
Spread into an 8inch spring form cake tin.
Then into the freezer for 10-15 mins to set.

CheeseCake Mix: 
500g Soft Cheese (Not low Fat) You could use original philadelphia I used the lidl version of full fat soft cheese.
100g of Icing Sugar
1 tsp Vanilla Extract
250ml Double Cream
100ml Baileys 
About 6 Biscoff Biscuits beaten to Rubble
1/2 Cup of Choc Sprinkles (optional)
You will need to use a good electric whisk here or be very good with a manual whisk to whisk it all into a fairly stiff mix.
Spread the cheecake mix evenly over the biscuit base.

Leave in the Fridge overnight to set.
I covered the top in a layer of melted chocolate and put back in fridge for another few hours but tbh it wasn’t really needed!! 

Sticky Toffee Pudding with a Baileys Salted Caramel Sauce!!!

Serves 6/7

Get two mixing bowls

In bowl 1 mix together:

190gram of Self Raising Flour

1&1/2 Tsp of Bicarbonate Soda

120gram of Soft Brown Sugar

Pinch of Salt

In bowl 2 mix together:

130ml of Milk

1 Teaspoon of Coffee granuals dissolved in boiling water just enough boiling water to dissolve the coffee.

6 Table Spoons of Melted Butter

1 Tsp of Treacle

2 Tsp of Vanilla Extract

2 Eggs

Combine the Wet & Dry bowls of stuff and mix together.

Pour into a cake tin greased with butter and cook in a pre heated oven for 20 mins at 170c.

The Sauce.

You will need a nice big pot and a blind eye to the ingredients!!

Pop all of the following into the pot on a low heat till the sugar is dissolved then up the heat to medium for 5 mins till it’s dark & thicker!!!

200g Unsalted Butter Chopped up.

350g Soft Brown Sugar

250ml Double Cream

1 Tsp of Salt

4 Tablespoons of Baileys

I stuck a few holes in the cake when it was cooked then poured some sauce over so it went into the cake .

Then more sauce over when serving.

Both cake & sauce can be pre made and heated in microwave no bother.


Nothing Like a crispy wing smothered in hot sauce !!!

I love wings and I’ve managed to make a version at home that almost lives up to my faves!

We buy packs of raw wings from Dunnes or Supervalu and take the tip off (we had to youtube this the 1st time) or Tesco have big pack already Tipped!

This Recipe is based on One pack of Wings.

Coat Raw wings In 1.5 Tablespoons of Olive Oil

2 Tablespoons of Cornstarch

A sprinkle of Onion Salt & A sprinkle of paprika or cayenne pepper.

They can me prepared like this and kept in the fridge till later or straight into the Actifry, Oven or Deep Fat Fryer till crispy! We use the Actifry.

The Sauce:

In a pot put

Half Bottle of Franks Hot Sauce

1 Table Spoon of Brown Sugar

1 Table Spoon of Butter

Squeeze of Honey

Few Splashes of Soy Sauce

Leave on low heat to simmer stirring occasionally while the wings are cooking. When the wings are cooked combine with the sauce in a big bowl and toss to coat fully!!!

These go amazing with Nachos & Cheese Sauce!!!!!! I use the Cheese Sauce Recipe from Fifteen Spatulas Except I use Smoked Applewood Cheddar https://www.fifteenspatulas.com/homemade-nacho-cheese-sauce/

Sticky Salty Sausages

Without doubt the most popular Recipe I’ve ever shared ! I had a Lady message me to say in her house they are now called Frilly Flausages!!!

I’m gonna be honest they are something else and I’ll be doing a big batch of Cocktail ones to have xmas night with the Sambo’s and Drinkies

This Glaze would be for 12 breakfast size sausages or about 36 cocktail sausages

In a bowl combine:

1.5 Tablespoons of Honey

1 Tablespoon of Brown Sugar

Sprinkle of Yellow Aromat

10 Dashes of Soy Sauce

1 Tablespoon of Olive Oil

Coat Sausages in the Sauce and cook in the oven at 200 till cooked and glazed approx 35/40mins

Cheesy Garlic Pull apart Bread!

I buy a loaf of cob bread

Cut across diagonally deep into the bread but not right to the bottom to make the gaps.

In a bowl combine a handful of

Grated Mozzarella , Grated Cheddar, Grated Parmesan and a table spoon of Italian Herbs

Stuff the gaps with the cheese and herb mixture.

Melt two tablespoons of garlic butter in the microwave for a few seconds then drizzle that all over the stuffed bread.

Put into a pre heated oven at 200 for about 25/30 mins covered lightly in tin foil! Sooo nice with the Sausages and Wings!!!

And that’s all from me except to say have a Happy Food Filled Christmas!!!!

A little Online Shopping help…

How to Use Parcel Wizard & Why I love Chemist Direct!!!

So I use Parcel Wizard fairly regularly as I shop online a bit…… cough cough a lot!!!

Basically it’s giving you a UK Address like Parcel Motel or Address Pal however I find it much better!!!
So when you come across a site like Chemist Direct, TKmax or Amazon who only offer UK delivery on Selected Items you can use this service. Or sometimes on Ebay An Item is free UK Delivery but about €11 to Ireland so in this instance I use my Parcel Wizard UK address and it only costs me €3.85 instead of €11.

So here’s how it works !!

• You go to The Parcel Wizard website and make an Account (it takes approx 5 minutes)

• They then provide you with a UK address and your own Unique Parcel Wizard Locator Number which is always to be used as the 1st line of the Address.

• When checking out of whatever website you are on you use this address for shipping.

• When Parcel Wizard Receive the item in their depot they text you to notify you.

• You then Log into your Parcel Wizard account top up by €3.85 (paypal or card)

• And then they will deliver it to your door!

• On the morning of Delivery you will receive a text to say what time to expect them and if it doesn’t suit you, you can log in and reschedule or another option if you think you might not be home is to have it delivered to one of their Pick up points they have 100’s around the Country.

•Some companies Like amazon Split Deliveries so If you order two things beware you could be charged the Parcel Wizard cost twice but I believe you can ask for them not to Split with Amazon.

•There is weight & dimension restrictions for the charge of €3.85 and additional costs if it’s over these measurements. But to be fair they are generous sizes and It’s never happened to me yet. This is the link to their Faq with the Measurements.


As a parent this is probably the best website I was ever told about! I use my parcel Wizard Account for my order as a lot of stuff they won’t ship to the Republic. You need to scroll to the bottom of the page and change the Flag to the UK.

You can order children’s Generic Calpol & Nurofen for Literally a few Euro, I’m talking under €4 a bottle!

Generic Calpol: https://www.chemistdirect.co.uk/paracetamol-infant-sugar-free-suspension-3-months/prd-hsm

Generic Nurofen: https://www.chemistdirect.co.uk/ibuprofen-100mg-5ml-suspension-for-children/prd-1io

Paracetamol Tablets for feck all https://www.chemistdirect.co.uk/paracetamol-500mg-tablets/prd-o38

And then Stuff we can’t get here like

Metanium nappy rash cream: https://www.chemistdirect.co.uk/metanium-nappy-rash-ointment/prd-4ad


Calgel: https://www.chemistdirect.co.uk/calgel-teething-gel/prd-55

Even cheaper Durex 😂😂

I use my uk parcel wizard address for shipping!

As it’s buying medicine online and not in person you could be sent an email after ordering asking who the products are Intended for (as in age). It only takes a min to fill in or for some stuff you’ll be asked while ordering. I have saved a fortune using them and recommended them to everyone!

*I’m sure you know already but I have zero affiliation with either of these companies I’m just passing on the info as I use them and mention them a lot.

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All Kinds of Everything…the useful baby bits!!

So My Little man is now 6 weeks old and so far he is as good as gold and we are all of course just Madly in Love with him 😍

compiled some Items we’ve found useful since he came along!<<<<
might help some new or expecting parents or even if your looking for Gift Ideas for a new arrival or baby shower!

Now just to keep it all honest and above board the below is purely just my opinion I was not paid by anyone. However I was sent the Chicco Bouncer by Kings BabyShop and BubbaBaby sent me the Cover.<<<<
nder absolutely no obligation to mention either business or items. If I didn’t like either they wouldn’t be included in this piece.

Kings Baby Shop is based in The North it’s a family run business with 40 years experience offering baby products at UK Prices but with next day delivery to the Republic!!!

Bubbababy is a small Irish Company run by a very clever mammy herself .

So I will probably divide opinion here as I know lots of People swear by them but for us we don’t like Changing Units! We had one on Rebecca and never used it, it was just in the way and gathering dust!

time we got the Malm 6 drawer unit from Ikea and we are using that as his drawers and his changing area!<<<<
ntire drawer has the Ikea separator compartments and the basket has all the Immediate nappy changing essentials to hand.



Malm Dividers


For bathing we use this sponge in the shape of a baby.We got one as a gift on Rebecca and I kinda fobbed it off until we used it, In my opinion it’s a game changer and dirt cheap! We have been using it from the start with Luke! Pop it in your bath and lie the baby on it!


For washing him we are currently still only using emulsifying Ointment & Water in his bath. As he starts to get bigger now we will start using stuff from the Avenno Baby and Childs Farm Ranges. All widely available in pharmacies.<<<<
ie from My Little Babog Recently wrote about the Child’s farm products if you want some info https://www.facebook.com/mylittlebabog/posts/1558616727517848

This Avent Room & Bath Thermometer we have Since Rebecca. It floats in the bath and then can be used in their room it’s so so handy!!


For Getting the baby from the bath & keeping them dry this towel is the business!! You attach it to yourself while your bathing the baby then lift baby onto your chest wrap them up and take it off you! They are warm and cosy and your not fiddling with towels and left soaking wet!! This would defo be a great present!!

ClevaMamma Towel http://www.clevamama.com/apron-baby-bath-towel-cream.html

ies, we are doing the same as we did on Rebecca and using Lidl or Aldi which ever we are closer to when we need some!! We have been using water wipes from the start I bought loads on special while pregnant.

I’m breastfeeding Luke and so far it’s all going so well and I’m really enjoying it !!

The Haakaa Pump is a super and cheap invention stick it on the opposite boob to the one your feeding with and it collects the leakage from the let down! It’s all one piece, super easy to use and easy to clean!! I love this little thing!!!


I’m gonna be honest I only wanted this feeding pillow because it had some grey 🙈 But it’s brill works a treat and can be used for tummy time aswell!!!

Chicco Boppy Feeding Cushiontp://kingsbabyshop.com/boppy-feeding-and-nursing-pillow.html

The Next to Me Crib!! Buy it! my god it’s the best piece of baby equipment ever!! This has made my life so much easier and I couldn’t recommend it highly enough!


Chicco Balloon Bouncer! It vibrates it plays music and even better it lets you record your voice for 30 seconds to play back to the baby!! It’s comfy, it looks cool and the music isn’t irritating it’s a winner!!!


Now I was slightly Skeptical about the bubbababy cover as I wasn’t sure I would use it much but I was so wrong ! It’s a great thing to have and I love it! So Handy to keep wind and light rain off the baby! Can also be used on trolley seats and as a breastfeeding cover! Another great Present Idea and a really great price for a handmade Item!



Braun Thermometer The most important baby item we ever bought! We got this when Rebecca was a few months old and I couldn’t be without it. It’s worth every cent!!


Wallaboo Car Seat Footmuff/Blanketese are not exactly cheap so I got mine on adverts second hand for €25!’s a safe way to keep baby warm in the car seat as it doesn’t effect the car seat belt-straps with bulky coats or snow suits!!tp://www.wallaboo.com/baby-blanket/fleur-soft-everyday-blanket.html

Muslin Cloths Buy 160 of them and then buy another pack of 3 😂 I use them for baby spit up’s, Boob Leakage and if I need some handy cover while breastfeeding in public.

I got loads at the Aldi baby event but they are sold everywhere!

Milton Portable Soother Steriliser. We had one of these for Rebecca and had one ready before Luke was born. I’m a big advocate for soothers mainly because of the Research that they can reduce the chance of a baby suffering from SIDs. Rebecca had one from the start and her usage reduced gradually with no issues. Her speech is perfect and so are her teeth. Luke has one since night 3 and it caused absolutely no nipple confusion. This little steriliser is attached to my changing bag and always has the a spare soother clean and ready to go.


So ye we have had our wobbly moments and a few sleepless nights but we are all still alive and smiling 😘

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So the “Sunroof” Delivery…

This was my Second Elective Section (Due to a previous pelvic fracture) I don’t think I could ever fully describe just how different both experiences were!!

This occasion was a million times better and I’d almost go as far as to say at times it was an enjoyable experience ,which is what you want the birth of your baby to be!!! I’ve had two previous surgeries on my pelvis so I’m not exactly new to going under the knife but being knocked out in a room before you even see the theatre, is very different to actually walking into a theatre gowned to the hilt and then being fully awake while they get to work!

Since last week I’ve had a fair few questions on Snapchat from Ladies facing a section or just general questions about it. So while it’s still fresh in my head I said I’d pop a few bullet points together that might just help someone else.
Obviously each hospital and Doctor is different so I’m going to try and be as general as possible but both my Csections were in the Coombe which I attended as a fully Public Patient.

*Use your Voice!!!!! Now I would firstly like to say the hospital know what they are doing! These people perform procedures like this daily and they are amazing at what they do! But each person is different and have their own fears and reactions to things! On Rebecca I suffered with low BP so once the spinal went in on my previous section my blood pressure hit the deck! And what followed was puke and lots of it! So Imagine lying still as you are being sectioned but then having to get sick aswell…. fun times!!! I continued to get sick for 3 days and it was hell I got about 2 seconds skin to skin when she arrived and I could barley hold her let alone feed her in the coming days. So this time 5 years on older and wiser it was going to be different.I had even worse low bp this pregnancy so the fear of a repeat was really scaring me! At the pre section appointment with the anaesthetic department I told them everything and how afraid I was and he assured me they would do all they could to stop a repeat! In the room 5 mins before I was brought to theatre I told the nurse again,this was after I had just told Stephen that I had changed my mind and I was going home 😂 When I got into theatre I told anyone who would listen and at this stage I was bawling like a baby. But the staff were amazing! they spoke to me every step of the way explaining at each moment what they were doing and when I asked the nurse could I hold her hand during the spinal she said ” No I’ll hold yours” ❤ From that second they constantly monitored my bp and were giving me fluids to avoid any dramatic drop and it worked!! By the time Stephen was in beside me I was Grace again even cracking the odd joke and having the chats with my consultant as she was working. It was all over in a flash and Luke was born. I got skin to skin and we were only separated during recovery for maximum 15 mins, last time it was 2 hours because I was so unwell! I could not thank each member of staff enough from the porters, nurses, midwifes and consultants even the two young medical students who stopped to thank me after for agreeing to let them in to watch! Although I was slightly mortified that they had just seen all my bits even my inside ones and then there I was yapping away to them 🙈🙈

*TAKE ALL THE DRUGS!!! If they offer it take it and take them on time!!!! You just had fairly major abdominal surgery there is no prize for acting the Martyr! Take the meds you’ll never enjoy a Difene suppository so much!! And when you get home continue to take what has been prescribed for at home. I was sent home with a prescription for 2 Difene per day for 5 days and some paracetamol and that’s been fine but in the hospital I was taking Morphene based pain killers and yes the odd time I may have given a few Geordie Shore cast members a run for their money with my Gurning 😬 Because Im breastfeeding this time I wasn’t offered Tylex which is what I was givin a lot on Rebecca. And Feckin Enjoy the Post Birth Tea & Toast!!
*Get mobile when you can ….but at your own pace!! During your section they will pop a catheter into the wee wee region, I have these dozens of times they are grand! You don’t feel it going in as by that stage your legs are numb and while it’s in you never really notice! Luke was born on wednesday afternoon they took my catheter out Thursday morning and the nurse brought me on a little walk to the door. I tried to get out of the bed and do tiny walks myself building them up gradually and It was perfect! By Friday I walked to the bathroom and had a full Shower on my own I really could have done this Thursday but I was a bit scared! After Rebecca I couldn’t stand without wanting to collapse and Stephen had to lift me into the shower and wash me in the hospital 😢

*Don’t be afraid of the wound! Mine is a fair bit bigger this time but it has been perfectly fine and was the same last time. I have dissolvable stitches and since theFriday  after I was dressing and bandage free as air will help it heal faster! It looks a bit scary and I’m a little bit bruised and at times sore but once you take it handy it’s fine!!

*Keep on top of your Iron!!Have it checked during your pregnancy if it’s low take supplements! I had very low Iron on both of mine. I didn’t do enough to get it up on Rebecca and had it drop very low after, which also explains why I was so weak! There is so many Iron options available and you will find something that doesn’t make you ill. I was taking 2 Galfer a day for 8 weeks and at the end I started to take 2 x 10ml of Floradix daily and I think the Floradix really helped as ‘6 Iron was at a great level post section and I was shocked!! I’m still taking Floradix now as it’s a great tonic ! 

*Time to get sexy!! Sorry no it’s really not 😂 Find the big black knickers in Penneys or Dunnes that come right up high near your belly button and buy heaps of them!! They won’t sit on the wound and they hold the even more sexy green mattress pads in place 👌

*There is going to be blood! Now this bit is different for everyone!!!! Last time I had a delayed haemorrhage on Christmas day (Are you starting to question why I ever considered doing this again?) But I knew it wasn’t right a few days after I came home. This time it’s fine it’s day 8 and I’m still bleeding but nothing major. I believe the general rule of thumb is if you are soaking a pad an hour or passing clots bigger than a 2 euro coin you need to be checked for infection. 

*Poo post section without fear! Honestly it’s never as bad as you Imagine. The fear is worse than the reality! I headed in for mine I think 3 days after, terrified and messaging my friend while there for distraction(sorry niamh) and honestly it was grand and I felt great after!!

*Look after yourself! On a Serious note you really have to take it easy, take all offers of help and let yourself recover you’ve just been through major surgery!!Soon you will be back to normal, flying around and wishing you could take advantage of some rest!

*Flash the wound!! If anyone dares pass a smart comment about you taking the “easy” way out or being “too posh to push” deck them or more appropriately flash them your wound ! There is nothing easy about childbirth END OF STORY!! All women no matter how their baby arrives into the world is epic!!!! I would fear the human race could be extinct long ago If our male counter parts had the baby cooking and producing job! 

And that’s all. I’m on the other side now and just madly in love with my Prize 😍😍

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And Now the end is Near…..

Yep that’s right folks the end is so close!

It’s been a fabulous, glamorous, text-book pregnancy……. NOT!

“The Ride is worth the Fall” as they say and soon we’ll have another little person.

The excitement in the house is at an all time high now, especially from the big sister!

She’s also starting “big” school so lots of change and new beginnings here.

But just before our normality  gets turned upside down we had a very special treat.
I had very few proper pictures when pregnant on Rebecca so when given the opportunity to have a bump shoot this time I was all over it.

I didn’t want anything overly cheesy or staged and the fact I know Lou and she felt the same it was a pure pleasure.

Of course little miss “loves to pose” had to be included and I am blown away by the pictures and how Lou has captured such a special time for our little family.
Having this all done in our own house made everything so much more relaxed and easy.

At 9 months pregnant it’s a tad difficult to look or feel in anyway glam so Michelle from Kandigloss  https://www.facebook.com/KandiglossMU/ came to the rescue and very kindly done my makeup and for the 1st time in a long time I felt like me again. 

So a huge thank you to both ladies for their time and effort. 

I have LC Photography https://www.facebook.com/lcphotodublin/ booked now for our newborn pics and I am already so excited about it!

While I’m here I’d like to thank everyone so much for the continued support both on Facebook and Snapchat.
As I said the last few months have not been easy but it’s felt like I had an extended family of support the entire time!

The wind down is officially on now for us but once all is “settled” I hope to be back writing again and sharing the next chapter! September to December is my favourite time of the year and I’ll be throwing myself full force into all the Halloween and Christmas build up (I may have already slightly started).

Most importantly I can drink wine again 😜😜

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Time for the Hospital Bag…..

So I’m no Pippa, Her hospital bag haul was far more glamorous and full of Clarin’s mini’s! Mine is not so glam!!!

Few Points to note First:
We don’t know the sex of the baby, so lots of white but we (me) have a general White and Grey Star theme going, which if you follow me on Snapchat (@frillyflossy) you will well and truly know by now with the ongoing Nursery Decorating!
I’m a public patient in the Coombe again, but I got lucky last time and got a semi-private ward so I had a fair bit of room! I probably won’t be so lucky this time and will be on a much bigger ward! But I love the chats so I’ll be happy with lots of company….. I hope.

I’m having this baby in Sept. It will most probably be still fairly warm! I’m having an Elective C Section again so I’m packing for the Long Haul & I’m not Listing any Labour essentials like Tens Machines or stuff to throw at your partner!

So Let’s start with the most Important person…….. Me!!!

*2 x Maternity/Nursing Night Dresses. (Grey from Penney’s & Navy from Dunnes)

*3 x Pairs of Navy Pj Bottoms. I got these from George @ Asda Online, they aren’t maternity but I bought 12-14 so they would be big on me and will come right up over my Scar, they’re so soft and Comfortable.


*3 x Hidden Support String Tops. (Penneys)

*8 x Pairs of Fabulous whopper black granny pants that come right up!! You will need these bad boys no matter where the baby comes out of. (Penneys) They could be kept as a means of contraceptive in the future, If you haven’t burned them that is!

*1 x Grey Light 3/4 Length Dressing gown. (Dunnes)

*2 x Nursing Bra’s. (Penneys)

1 pair of Flip Flop Style Slippers. (Penneys)

1 pair of Cheapo Flip Flops for the Shower.

*Big Green Maternity Pads!! (Inhealth.ie)

I have one pack in the bag and one at home to be brought in If I need more. They Are like wearing a mattress but they are necessary….. so very necessary!!!

I’m Bringing Sexy Back!!
*Breast Pads.

*Multi Mam Compresses and Balm for the boobies. (If Intending on Breast feeding apparently these are essential I got mine from Inhealth.ie)

Now for Toiletries and Cosmetics:

*Mini Shampoo & Conditioner

*Shower Gel & Feminine Wipes. (Not recommended for Vaginal birth)

*Mini Tooth Paste & Toothbrush.

*Facial Mist Spray. (The hosp is hot)

*Mini Anti bac hand sanitizer.

*Mini Mint Breath Freshener spray.


*Lip Balm.


*Mini Deodorant.

*Mini Dry Shampoo.

*Micellar Water.

*Make-up Remover Pads.

*Eye Serum. (Thinking I’m Pippa again)

*Small Travel Hairdryer. 

*Hair Brush.

*Bobbins & Hair Band.

*Dark Towel Hair Turban.

I’m bringing a few small pieces of makeup:

*Pippa Palette

*Mascara (Dior)

*Foundation (Armani Luminous Silk) 

*Eyebrow Brush, One Eyeshadow Brush and a Foundation Brush.(Nima and Real Techniques)

If make up is the last thing on your mind absolutely fine! 
If like me popping on some mascara and giving the brows a quick going over would make you feel better again absolutely fine!

If your having someone come in and do a full face including Lashes, again absolutely FINE!!!


Now for the new Arrival!!!
1st Outfit in a little Zip Lock Freezer Bag Ready to go!

I’m Packing a lot of the Stuff into little freezer bags because it’s very handy and I’m sad and pathetically Organised. So Many people do it and Recommend it.

Im bringing all newborn to the hospital. Rebecca was 7 lb 1 at 39 weeks and by all accounts it’s looking like this baby will be similar If not only slightly bigger so I’m doing the same again. I will have lots of 0-3 mths at home ready to be brought in should I need them!

I’m not bringing any baby cardigans for our stay due to the timing. I only had them for Rebecca as it was December!

*Newborn Vest, Babygro Hat & Nappy.

*6 Vests. (mix of short and no sleeve)

*6 Baby grows. (Built in Mittens)

*2 Bibs.

(Mix of M&S, Dunnes and Next)

*6 Muslin Squares. (These are the best invention ever Lidl,Dunnes,Penneys,Ikea)

*2 Hats. (Next)

*2 Cellular Blankets. (Ladybird Littlewoods)

*1 Pack of Water Wipes and 1 Pack of 1st Size Aldi Nappies. 

*Baby Towel If Intending on giving baby a bath in hospital.

*2 Nuk Soothers
***TIP a little bit of Olive Oil in a bottle works a treat on the new baby Tar like poo’s….. trust me***
Rebecca has bought a comforter for the baby and the Baby will be bringing her a little present.

The Very Excited Big Sis with the Babies Pressie 😍

Now a few Miscellaneous Items:

My Own Pillow and a Feeding Pillow. 
I got the Chicco Boppy One on Littlewoods. It was recommend to me and I read a lot of reviews on various sites.It can be used for Bf and Bottle feeding and for Tummy Time…. apparently! 


Snacks, Charger, Little Note Book, A Few Bob & A Small Roll of Bags for sending home any washing!

I got a hold-all/weekend bag for me and a backpack for the baby in Cath Kidson in Kildare Village to hold everything. They were €33 and €18 very Reasonable, roomy and pretty !!

As of Today I have a drawer dedicated to spares that Stephen can grab extra stuff to bring in should we need it!

I will have my outfit for coming home hanging up ready for him to bring in! It’s a pair of White Skinnies, Cami top and wedges …… I’m Joking! Its in fact Black Maternity Leggings, Black Vest Top with a Denim shirt worn open to pop over and my converse!!!

Trying desperately to be Glam while feeling far from it!
And I think that’s the Lot!!
I still have several weeks to go but since I was signed off work with all my ailments I’ve been fairly bored and spent my days buying everything online and ticking them off my lists!!!

So no harm having everything bought and ready to go …..

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